I watch The Bachelor. And The Bachelorette. I hate myself for it, but I can't stop. Ok....that's a little harsh, I don't hate myself for it....I just wish I had never gotten into it because it's just one more thing to waste time on.
Through this show I've learned that I'm pretty good at judging a person's character via first impression. Now, I'm not ALWAYS right, but I'm pretty good. On the first episode, the bachelor stands in front of this mansion and is greeted by a line of 25 women. They only have a few seconds each for their first impressions before the next girl in line comes along. Jake gets to hand out a "first impression" rose, to whichever girl he felt stood out to him. To go along with this, I have made a point of choosing my favorite one from the lineup just based on the first impressions, as well. And you know what? Every single time that person has made it AT LEAST to the top 3, most of them to the top 2.
This time is no exception. My first favorite was Ali, second favorite was Tenley (based on first impression). Then a little further into the episode I changed the order. They got down to the final 4 and guess what? Ali and Tenley are both still there. Well.....actually Ali just left because apparently her job threatened to fire her if she didn't come home, but I know she'll be back as part of the drama of the last episode.
Anyway.....to get to the topic of this post, about how Jake is just like every other "in love" person out there.....Why doesn't he listen to any of the other girls when they tell him what Vienna is like? He's had MULTIPLE girls come to him and tell him just what kind of girl she is, and all of these remaining girls have done the same thing....these girls he thinks are amazing, wonderful women, women he's fallen for....they're telling him the truth about one of the other girls, and he just says "That's not what I see when I'm with her."
Well.....HELLLLLOOOOOO!!! That's why they say "Love is blind", dimwhit!!!
I mean, we've all been there, haven't we? In that relationship that, to us, seems wonderful, even though all of our friends are telling us what they see from the outside?
Why don't we listen to our friends (and family)? Aren't they the ones that matter? Aren't they the ones who will (hopefully) still be there when the relationships fall apart?
I've been there. I've been in a grand total of 2 relationships in my life and both times I had people telling me it wasn't a good thing.....and I chose to ignore them. I think the difference is that I knew they were right but chose not to listen. I think some people are literally blind to what's going on and that's why they get so upset when their friends try to tell them what they see.
Jake (poor Jake) is in this same dilemma. To him, Vienna is fun, kind, and sweet.....because in the short (SHORT!) amount of time he's gotten to spend with her, she's managed to put on an act. It's not hard to do, some people do it for years. People don't get to know their REAL significant other until it's too late sometimes. But in this case, Jake doesn't have a lot to go on and if he really were smart, he would listen to the other girls. All this stuff has leaked about her, like the topless calendar photos she posed for (Jake is a guy w/ morals....pretty sure he wouldn't go for this). She's also been married and took everything from the guy's bank account while he was away at war. She's a snake, and I hope that she is not the last one standing in this game.
I just HATE to see people in this situation, even when I don't know them. I hate seeing people in relationships that aren't good for them, and watching them STAY in them because they just don't see any other options.
My neighbor has woken me up many nights because the terrible things he is screaming at his girlfriend come right through my bedroom wall. I remember the first week I moved in here, hearing him yelling at her, and seeing her sitting outside crying. Why is she still there? The guy beats his dog (I've heard it, and heard someone tell him to stop, so I know it happens) and I wouldn't be surprised if he beats his girlfriend, too. But the point is, he treats her like dirt.....and she's still around. I wish I would run into her sometime, because I just want to tell her she deserves better, even though I don't know her.
I just know that love and marriage are such a huge thing in God's eyes, that He has a plan for it that is so very different from what we do.....I wish people understood this. I wish girls would see themselves as beautiful and worth being LOVED, and that they'd settle for nothing less. I wish guys would man up and be the strong, protective (but still sensitive) guys we girls want them to be. This could all be so much less complicated if we'd all just love eachother well.
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